Ever here a guy/girl say " i want someone that doesn't play games" LIARS!!! LOL OK well that might be taking it over board because alot of people feel they really mean what they say. I don't care whether man or woman, we all love a challenge! Become the prefect man/woman to your mate and i guarantee they will get bored, and start acting up! WHY is this we ask? We all love a challenge. I don't care if you meet your dream girl. Let her come on to you strong and be all over you and available all the time and always blowing you up trying to spend every waking moment with you....yea yea i know what your saying hell naw i wouldn't act up i wouldn't go anywhere. Well it sounds good and is good at first but after a while that woman looses her value real quick. There is no challenge to her. You feel as you conquered her. You feel that she is so into you that you got her on lock then you take her for granted. That's when trouble starts. But you catch yourself soon enough stop being available all the time. Stop blowing up there phone. Don't answer a call or two when they call you. Call back a few hours and say "hey I'm sorry i got a little tied up, how are you" See how quickly roles reverse. This is nothing new. Its the old cat and the mouse game! I don't care who you are, we all play it. Rather we are the cat or the mouse and it goes for both men and women. RULE OF THUMB: never smother your partner! Its almost never good to make your partner feel smothered by you! Except for those few circumstances where people actually love being smothered with attention. (This usually stems from deeper issues with that person) Allow a certain amount of space for each other. This way it gives both you room to breathe and miss each other. Your mate can't call you and say "hey i been thinking about you, i miss you" if your up there butt blown up there phone or texting them 24/7. Good communication is key but know the difference between that and invading comfortable space. The less crowding you are and more mysterious you are , the more intrigued your mate is! To REALLY generalize it....LESS IS MORE!
As always, happy hunting!
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Mr. Love Guru,
ReplyDeleteCat n Mouse, good topic. Yes, we all play that game at one point in our lives. Challenges are what make initial relationships exciting. Couples get comfortable of their roles and most times it is not the challenge that gets lost, it is the value of the relationship that changes. Routines set in which leads to the comfortable, less challenging. A real woman NEVER loses her value and if her man loves her then her value should not depreciate. The challenge is no longer there because the two are not growing together. You said: "RULE OF THUMB: never smother your partner! It's almost never good to make your partner feel smothered by you." ABSOLUTELY!! Men need to realize that their woman is not a possession and should not try to control her and vice verse. You also said "Good communication is the key but know the difference between that and invading comfortable space". Well good communication is what helps relationship grow and progress. I would say that TRUST and security within the relationship is what makes the comfortable space work. Great subject this month!
Respectfully Yours,
LCFM