This thing called sex!!

It is no question that SEX is one of the most important components of a relationship! It is also one of the main reasons couples divorce. When it comes to attracting the opposite sex, SEX is very important. HOWEVER sex can also be very destructive to a relationship. I promote abstinence until marriage the way God wanted it to be. I do understand that that's not always the case. The flesh is weak and we battle with it everyday. For those that do have pre marital sex just understand the effects and consequences! Great sex to soon in a new relationship can cloud your ability to properly judge and analyse the true chemistry and connection you really have with each other. Great sex does cloud your judgement when its had early on in a new relationship. We tend to overlook  flaws or conflicts of interest that normally would be an issue with us because the sex makes up for everything. The problem is no matter how great the sexual chemistry is at the beginning it all dies down. Now I'm not saying that sex is inevitably going to get worse as a relationship progresses. I'm simply saying that the original thrill of great sex with a new partner doesn't stay new for long. You get into that "used to it stage" When the thrill is gone then that's when you start noticing all those annoying flaws that you would have noticed if you weren't playing naked twister all day! Get to know someone for them and not their skills in the bedroom first. You can really get to know a person if you take time to spend quality time. Not just dinner then back to my place. If you find that the chemistry is crazy and your actually compatible just by spending time and hanging out with no sex, the sex later on down the line is just going to enhance an already beautiful start! According to the bible we are supposed to practice abstinence until we are married. Women were designed to attract men as men attract women. And its natural to have sexual desires. The bible says "it is better to marry then to burn with passion" 1 Corinthians 7:9. So sexual desire is supposed to encourage marriage! Every time you sleep with a man/woman, you create a soul tie. A physical,chemical,and spiritual bond between you and your mate.We aren't supposed to BOND with everyone we are attracted to. Only our spouse.  The more we do this the harder it is for us to form a genuine meaningful relationship with people. This has been studied. I will elaborate on this subject on a future post.Bottom line is, YES sex is very important but whats more important is knowing you have a real connection with someone your feeling so that when the newness of sex with a new partner dies down, you already have a strong foundation that keeps your relationship going. Without that then your relationship falls apart. Sex only masked the would be obvious flaws, and lack of true connection hence wasting time and energy.Creating a new physical,spiritual, and chemical bond with someone you won't see again. We need to think about the long run when it comes to sex. What is your main goal? Do you just want some booty or are you looking for someone that you can spend the rest of your life with? We need to know what we truly want and should always practice abstinence. Especially if we have no self control over our passion/lust. If its too much to bear then find a wife or a husband! Then you can get it in as much as your hearts desire, and will be smiled down upon by God as sex with your spouse is a form of worship to God. It is a very good thing when its done in the proper circumstances! As always happy hunting!
The Love Guru

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