There are all different types of people in this world. It is our job to experience as many people and personalities as we can. Depending on what stage of life we are in we might not even know who we are. The longest relationship i was in to date was 3 yrs. I've only been in true love once! I cheated! Yes i know i know but i was young and dumb! I was heart broken for two yrs until i met the woman i mentioned previously. Physically she was gorgeous! Everything i could ever hope for in a woman. At that time i was just getting to know who i am, and i never really knew what my proto-type of a woman was. The problem was that me and this woman were identical. We where both attractive, cocky, full of ourselves. We both were used to alot of attention from the opposite sex. Both stubborn bull headed, had to have our way! Yes this was a nightmare. From the first phone conversation we had, we argued! And everyday of our lives for three years straight we argued and fought. Absolutely the worst relationship i ever had! That being said i wouldn't change a thing about that period in my life. It taught me so much about who i am and what type of woman i need for me to be happy! It was a bitter sweet learning experience! We all need to find out who we are and what we need as opposed to what we want!
This brings us to our proto-type! Once you have a pretty good grasp on who you are and the type of women that's right for you, STICK TO THE SCRIPT! Don't waste time dating someone who you know you have no future with. For example if your looking to get married and the man/woman your talking to says that marriage is the furthest thing from there mind, then its probably a waste of time dating her. If you want kids and the person your dating doesn't, move around! Don't waste time entertaining that relationship just because he/she is attractive and you want to get some! Anything can happen. You sleep with him/her you get her pregnant or you become pregnant with someone that your not compatible with. Now you have a baby momma/daddy and a misc kid out there. PLEASE learn from my mistakes. Don't wast your time. Only focus on your PROTO-TYPE! Only date those who make your check list! Example physical attraction..check wonderful personality..check no kids...check good job, own place check and check. Christian God fearing check. Wants to eventually get married check! Now this is just an example. Your list can be what ever it is you want. The point is don't waste time with those who don't meet the criteria. If you only date your PROTO-TYPES your chances are far greater finding what you really need in a mate and detour's you from other distractions that may keep you from God's blessings! Happy hunting!
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Mr. Love guru,
ReplyDeleteI enjoy your blogs, I must say. You speak of experience and having been with many, many women. Your excursions with these women taught you many things and yet so little. You speak of proto-types and sticking to the script. Sometimes a little deviation can lead to a lifetime with your Soul mate. Life takes individuals on journeys in order to prepare them for their Soul mate. What you may think is right and what you WANT may very well not be what you NEED. I wouldn’t be so quick to remove single women with children from lists. Most men nowadays have children, would it be fair for women to not consider him? I would ask if the children are from different men a lot can be said about a woman with the answer to that question. Also I would like to ask you do you fit your own check list and plan to offer a woman the same?
Respectfully yours,
LuvComeFindMe
Hello aman89, thanks for reading and responding to my post. Yes i speak of sticking to the script but only after you have explored
ReplyDeletedifferent partners and experiences as i mentioned in the begining of the post. Yes you do have to experience different women/men and personalities. These experiences mold you and also help you understand yourself and what you NEED in a woman/man. THEN and only then, you should use that information to form a blue print, or "proto type" of the type of women/man you want and concentrate on dating them. As far as the check list, as i stated in the post it was just an example. I just used the first examples that came to my head. Dating women with children actually isn't in my list as a no go. Yes i do have children and don't have a problem dating women who do. My point however was that what ever we have discovered about ourselves through the dating scene, we should apply that when it comes to choosing who we date. Some guys just don't like kids, or have the patience for them. Some guys don't have kids and want a woman who has none so they can experience that miracle together for the first time. Is that wrong to want that if thats how you feel? Some women have been through so much tramatic experience dealing with guys and their baby mommas that even though the women have kids they don't want to deal with a many with any because of the horrible experiences they had. So that women would exclude me from the dating list. Thats fine with me, thats her perogative. She's entitled to that. Simply put let's learn ourselves and traits for our compatible mate and focus on dating them. Be blessed!