How to weed out the bad men from the good!

This post is for women who are ready and only looking to settle down with a good man. That being said, WOMEN you have to also be ready and must be the quality that you expect your man to be!! You also have to know yourself and who you are to possibly know what type of man is RIGHT for you! When i was a teenager i had no clue of who i was and what type of women is compatible to my personality. It took years later and a lot of experimenting with different women and personalities including a horrible three year relationship to help me discover myself and the type of women that is compatible with me. With this imperative information, it is that much easier for me to target the good from the bad. Now the bad might not necessarily be bad for all but just not a good match for me. Everyone is different. So to the women who haven't found themselves or don't have a firm grasp on what they want in a man, i suggest you keep living life dating and experimenting to find yourself and what you like need and don't need in a man before you truly start searching for that one!

OK so to the ones that feel they know what they want and they are ready for that one, here is a little advice to help you sift through the dirt to find that gold! BEWARE OF WOLVES IN SHEEP'S CLOTHING! I evaluate my prospects by red flags. If your just starting out with someone and you get a whole lot of red flags at the beginning, then its probably in your best interest to not pursue the relationship! What are red flags you ask? Anything that comes up in a relationship as it pertains to your partner that is con not a pro, a negative, something that makes you question or is not a desirable trait or situation. For instance your guy never answers his phone after a certain time on any day. RED FLAG ! Get it? OK ...so lets proceed. As we all know men and women are usually at there best  behavior at the beginning of a relationship. This makes it harder to figure out the true nature of that person or any hidden agenda's. Fellas, I'm sorry to say this but ladies, depending on the guy most of the time guys are "couchie motivated" we see something pleasing to the eye we immediately think "damn i wanna hit that, let me try and get her number! Our main goal is to sleep with you! DISCLAIMER: this does not pertain to all men. It depends on who the man is and where his mind state is at at that point of his life. Some men like me are looking for there wife, but when we find her it will still initially be sexually motivated!! So ladies the biggest thing you have to do is weed out the guys who just want to sleep with you. This can be fairly easy depending on how bad this guy wants to get in your pants!! Men analyze women quickly we will know what role you will play in our life the first time we meet you. For example. Let's say i have extremely good taste in women. My past girlfriends can pass for models. This is my preferred type! And lets say i have a high sex drive and obviously love sex as well. I'm in the gym working out. There is this woman on the tread mill in front of me in nice tight black leggins. Her body is bangin and jiggling everywhere in all the right places. I'm turned on..she finally gets off the tread mill and turns around..BAM she got a "butter face" that means everything fine "but her face" but she's giving me the eye really hard so i know she wants me and this would be an easy lay. As a man I've already came to the conclusion that i want to sleep with her because I'm sexually attracted to her body and plus it would be an easy score  because she was starring all at me. I've also came to the conclusion that she's not wifee or girlfriend material because to my standards her face isn't pretty enough, but to another guy he mind think she fine! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. However this beholder doesn't think she hot just her body. My point is now I'm about to approach her and run mad game, what ever i think i have to say or would work just so i can get in her pants! She might really dig me, end up giving me some and getting her feelings hurt in the long run. Ladies I'm trying to prevent you from going through this by determining a man's true agenda before you give your heart and your body away.
OK first things first..WOMEN are attracted by words. This is why they melt when a man writes poetry or says really sweet things to his girl, love notes etc so words are powerful. There are alot of guys out here with alot of game. Don't get caught up with words. Words a man tells you shouldn't hold an ounce of worth unless its backed up by action! If this guy says he cares so much then his actions damn sure better be showing it! If they don't then don't believe it! A guy who just wants to sleep with you won't want to spend money on you! Unless he's a baller and a dinner and a movie ain't nothing which it really isn't but if i know your just a "good time" for me I'm tryna go str8t to your place or have you come back to mine! I'm not tryna spend money, I'm not tryna be really seen with you like that. If your prospect just wants you to come over or vice versa no dinner no movie RED FLAG.  If the guy does take you out to dinner and a movie that don't mean he passed its OK to give it to him! Make him wait! That's the simplest yet hardest test to do! A man is NOT going to consistently spend time and money on a girl that he just wants to sleep with. TIME is the secret in telling a mans true intentions. I know it may be hard. I know there are alot of women that's hot under the collar now adays! lol But i promise you i never spent continuous time or money on a girl i only wanted to sleep with...ever! Let that man court you and take you out and spend quality time together without sleeping together for an extended period of time. Is he still the same man he was at the beginning or has his attitude changed. Is he just as attentive as he was at the beginning or does he spend less time with you together or less time talking to you on the phone. Is he going out with others "friends" more? Evaluate that, if he is the same man at the beginning as he is several months later with no actions chances are you have a possible good one on your hands but don't have false security in this because men can and do also change after they do "get it" Sometimes for the better sometimes for the worst. This is just a step in the right direction. There is still alot more to be cautious about. I will go in further detail in another post. Happy hunting for now!
The love Guru

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