When i was a child my mother used to always quote the old saying "hell has no furry like a woman scorned" I thought it sounded good. It had a nice ring to it you know. However i never truly knew what it meant until after my first daughter's mother texted it to me!! Oh Lord God!!! I do understand now. I am now very vigilant about weeding out women scorned! For every man that hurts a woman, the next guy pays the price! Meet a woman that's been ran through the fields by a healthy share of bad boys, and you'll find HELL ON HEELS!!! After a serious emotional relationship is over we all need time to heel.Jump to quick into another relationship and that person pays the price and ends up the rebound guy/girl. Its human nature to protect ourselves. Hunters became better hunters by learning from their mistakes. A woman gets close to a guy, the guy hurts her. Basic survivor skill kicks in. The woman learns not to get close to the next guy! Simple effective! Can you blame them. Although the reality of the matter is you will never find true love, your mate, and have a meaningful relationship like this. You have to learn to give TRUE second chances. Let's say a woman gives a second chance to another guy, same thing happens that just makes the fact that she can't get close even more prominent! And so on and so on. SO.... like i said, you find a woman who has been dragged through the fields more then a few times, then you find yourself problems! Men need hiking boots and alot of rope to deal with these women! Their guards are super high and we have a high wall to climb! Without TRUST there is no true relationship. It just doesn't work! But how do you get a woman to trust you who has trusted many and has been disappointed every time? A LOT OF HARD WORK!
I'll be honest, sometimes is not even worth the work!! Its hard to knock someone who has a guard up because they have given trust time after time and have been let down. At the same time its hard for someone fresh and new to deal with someone who takes that experience out on them and they haven't even done anything wrong....YET LOL. WHAT DO WE DO!! FELLAS: I suggest we determine if the woman is worth the work! How do we do that? Remember my PROTO-TYPE post? If you haven't read it please do. If you have read it please re read to re freshen your mind. The main question..HOW CLOSE IS THIS WOMAN TO MY PROTO-TYPE? If this woman isn't even close to what your list of what your proto-type should be then bounce quick! Don't even waste time dealing with a woman with issues if she isn't close to what your looking for anyway. Mental Note: The prettier the girl, the more a man will tolerate!! I don't care what you say, a man is going to put up with more of a gorgeous woman's ISH then he will with an average or below average looking chicks! Now with certain men a model type is the average girl he's used to.In that case it don't matter how fine you are if you have alot of baggage to deal with...YOU GON! This is not the case for most men. I know I'm bouncing around a bit. Let me be more clear. MEN don't get caught up on a woman's looks to blind you! If you find yourself tolerating a lot of bs off of a woman and the only reason is because she so fine...WALK AWAY! Looks aren't enough to create or keep a healthy relationship. Hell LOVE isn't even enough! There are more components that have to be there for everything to work.
NOW...let's say this girl is close to your proto-type ( remember every one's proto-type is different) She doesn't accuse you of cheating when you don't pick up your phone right away. She doesn't have to know who your with and where you are every second of everyday. That's control! In fact the only real problem you have with her is that you can't seem to get close to her heart! You guys have a ball when your out and communication is good. It's just in her heart, although she likes you and enjoys your company she's scared to give you all of her. THIS is a woman worth fighting for. This is where the hard work and the hiking boots and rope come into play. You have to show her that you are different then the other guys. There is so much we can discuss on this subject and i will elaborate later. For now i am going to keep it simple. There are two major top flight security of the world craig..secrets to break that high wall she has up, down! And its as simple as this...TIME and CONSISTINCY! If you consistently show your loyalty,your faithfulness,that you can be trusted. If you consistently prove her WRONG never let her down, are there for her when ever she needs you, in an elongated period of time, those walls will tumble and fall! A woman wants to love, wants to be loved already. She just wants to feel secure with the one she wants to give her heart too! Just know that when you do get her heart you know how to take care of it or you are going to ruin our good women! We already lack quality out here. Men, when you find quality, please know its worth and if your not truly ready for it, let it go with out running her through the fields and give a man who is not necessarily better then you just at a different level in his life and is ready to give her what she needs, a chance at LOVE!
Enough of my rantings for now! lol As always, happy hunting!
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Saturday, July 30, 2011
Yay's and Nay's
We are all individuals! As individuals we have our own mind, our own opinion, and different likes, and dislikes. That being said, I've concocted a list of things i think are turn on's as well as turn off's as far as women are concerned. Now us being individuals I'm sure some will agree and some won't. That's perfectly fine. Just read and take what you will from it!
Yay's and Nay's
YAY'S
A woman that keeps her hair, toes, and nails done! (pretty hands and feet are a BIG turn on for alot of men)
A woman with a nice shape (women, if your not the best looking girl, a nice shape goes a looong way! Anyone can get into shape unless you have severe health issues that prohibit that. Laziness is not a severe health issue!)
A woman that can dress sexy but classy at the same time (yes definitely show off that sexy body but leave something to the imagination. Its been studied men are actually attracted more to this then leaving nothing to the imagination!)
A woman that talks like a lady (don't want a woman that sounds like I'm talking to one of the homies from the block)
A feminine woman (If you are a lady then move like one! Don't want your pimp harder then mine when you walk!)
A confident yet humble personality (there is nothing sexier then a gorgeous woman who is so down to earth) biggest turn on!!!
A woman with positive energy (ever been with someone who was always depressed and always brought your mood down? sucks!)
A God fearing woman (simple, im a Christian, the bible says you can not be unequally yoked) how is that going to look being with a non believer..our marriage won't be blessed!
A independent woman
A woman with morals and values
A supportive woman
A woman that understands her role in a relationship
Dreamers
A woman that's a good mother to her children (women please don't put your man before your kids, i've seen this to many times!)
A woman that knows how to respect (men are big on respect...this is key Know how to respect your man)
NAY'S
A woman with a gutter mouth
A woman that acts like a man (there are two roles in a relationship babe..play your part)
A woman that mass fornicates (not judging been there, but if this is your current status. walk on by!)
A woman that lies (if you lie to me how can i trust you? If there is no trust then what do we really have?)
A woman that cheats (duh right?)
A woman that doesn't respect
A woman that dresses skanky (don't get me wrong i love a woman that shows off her body but there is a difference between sexy and skanky and it says alot about who you are to us men! We approach you and treat you accordingly!)
A non believer in Christ
A woman that is extremely jealous (a little is ok)
A woman with insecurity issues (get that worked out first! I will always tell you how beautiful you are but don't want to continuously reassure you that you deserve to be with me! It will make me question if you really do deserve too!)
A woman that is an emotional wreck (Sorry i don't have the time to babysit your emotions!)
An abusive woman
A controlling woman (where you at, where you going, who you with, you women don't like it so what makes you think we do?)
A woman that calls a man out of his name/ someone who can't control their emotions in the heat of an arguement! (Big turn off. I don't do the verbal abuse thing. If i can control what comes out my mouth when im mad then so can you! WE BOTH GROWN!)
A CONCEITED WOMAN!!! (BIGGEST TURN OFF) (not to be confused with confidence)
A selfish woman (If its all about you, then you minus well date yourself!)
A woman with bad hygiene (Need i explain)
These are just a few things that are turn on's and off's to me. If this helps anybody out GREAT. If not then i hope it made for entertaining reading! I think most men will agree with alot of what was posted. Well...happy hunting for now! Until next time!
The love guru
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Yay's and Nay's
YAY'S
A woman that keeps her hair, toes, and nails done! (pretty hands and feet are a BIG turn on for alot of men)
A woman with a nice shape (women, if your not the best looking girl, a nice shape goes a looong way! Anyone can get into shape unless you have severe health issues that prohibit that. Laziness is not a severe health issue!)
A woman that can dress sexy but classy at the same time (yes definitely show off that sexy body but leave something to the imagination. Its been studied men are actually attracted more to this then leaving nothing to the imagination!)
A woman that talks like a lady (don't want a woman that sounds like I'm talking to one of the homies from the block)
A feminine woman (If you are a lady then move like one! Don't want your pimp harder then mine when you walk!)
A confident yet humble personality (there is nothing sexier then a gorgeous woman who is so down to earth) biggest turn on!!!
A woman with positive energy (ever been with someone who was always depressed and always brought your mood down? sucks!)
A God fearing woman (simple, im a Christian, the bible says you can not be unequally yoked) how is that going to look being with a non believer..our marriage won't be blessed!
A independent woman
A woman with morals and values
A supportive woman
A woman that understands her role in a relationship
Dreamers
A woman that's a good mother to her children (women please don't put your man before your kids, i've seen this to many times!)
A woman that knows how to respect (men are big on respect...this is key Know how to respect your man)
NAY'S
A woman with a gutter mouth
A woman that acts like a man (there are two roles in a relationship babe..play your part)
A woman that mass fornicates (not judging been there, but if this is your current status. walk on by!)
A woman that lies (if you lie to me how can i trust you? If there is no trust then what do we really have?)
A woman that cheats (duh right?)
A woman that doesn't respect
A woman that dresses skanky (don't get me wrong i love a woman that shows off her body but there is a difference between sexy and skanky and it says alot about who you are to us men! We approach you and treat you accordingly!)
A non believer in Christ
A woman that is extremely jealous (a little is ok)
A woman with insecurity issues (get that worked out first! I will always tell you how beautiful you are but don't want to continuously reassure you that you deserve to be with me! It will make me question if you really do deserve too!)
A woman that is an emotional wreck (Sorry i don't have the time to babysit your emotions!)
An abusive woman
A controlling woman (where you at, where you going, who you with, you women don't like it so what makes you think we do?)
A woman that calls a man out of his name/ someone who can't control their emotions in the heat of an arguement! (Big turn off. I don't do the verbal abuse thing. If i can control what comes out my mouth when im mad then so can you! WE BOTH GROWN!)
A CONCEITED WOMAN!!! (BIGGEST TURN OFF) (not to be confused with confidence)
A selfish woman (If its all about you, then you minus well date yourself!)
A woman with bad hygiene (Need i explain)
These are just a few things that are turn on's and off's to me. If this helps anybody out GREAT. If not then i hope it made for entertaining reading! I think most men will agree with alot of what was posted. Well...happy hunting for now! Until next time!
The love guru
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Tuesday, July 26, 2011
Rules to live by!!!
OK so I've been doing some thinking and I've put together a few rules to live by when it comes to relationships. Now some of these rules are old and many already know about them but for those that don't I'm simply laying it out for you! As well as bringing to the table a few rules of my own.
Number one rule YOU CAN'T TURN A HOE INTO A HOUSE WIFE
simply put, if your girl used to be a bust down, got ran through,slept with half the block or half the club, if u slept with her the first night and admitted sleeping with someone else the night before..RUN old habits die hard!! Simply put!!
2: BELIEVE NONE OF WHAT YOU HEAR AND ONLY HALF OF WHAT YOU SEE!
Simply put...don't tell me show me!!
3: IF HE/SHE LEAVES HIM/HER FOR YOU THEN EXPECT THE SAME IN RETURN!
Simply put...you reap what you sow!
4:THOSE THAT HIDE THERE PHONES HIDE THERE LIES!
Simply put...if there guarding there phone like a 3 month old baby....RED FLAG!
5: GUYS/GIRLS THAT ARE REALLY COMFORTABLE CALLING YOU PET NAMES AT THE BEGINNING...RED FLAG!
6: CONSTANT TEXTING!! RED FLAG!
could be completely innocent...however.....RED FLAG!
7: A WOMAN KEEP HER VAGINA HOW SHE KEEP HER HOUSE!
If your woman has a nasty house...run! Real talk!
8: EARLY DISRESPECT OUT THE MOUTH OF YOUR PARTNER IS WARNING TO VERBAL/PHYSICAL ABUSE!
9: HISTORY REPEATS ITSELF!
If your partner has a HISTORY of cheating,abuse,alcoholism,drugs,etc..just remember that!
10: YOU REAP WHAT YOU SEW!
You do dirty in one relationship, don't think the relationship you really want to be in is going to be peaches and cream...
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Number one rule YOU CAN'T TURN A HOE INTO A HOUSE WIFE
simply put, if your girl used to be a bust down, got ran through,slept with half the block or half the club, if u slept with her the first night and admitted sleeping with someone else the night before..RUN old habits die hard!! Simply put!!
2: BELIEVE NONE OF WHAT YOU HEAR AND ONLY HALF OF WHAT YOU SEE!
Simply put...don't tell me show me!!
3: IF HE/SHE LEAVES HIM/HER FOR YOU THEN EXPECT THE SAME IN RETURN!
Simply put...you reap what you sow!
4:THOSE THAT HIDE THERE PHONES HIDE THERE LIES!
Simply put...if there guarding there phone like a 3 month old baby....RED FLAG!
5: GUYS/GIRLS THAT ARE REALLY COMFORTABLE CALLING YOU PET NAMES AT THE BEGINNING...RED FLAG!
6: CONSTANT TEXTING!! RED FLAG!
could be completely innocent...however.....RED FLAG!
7: A WOMAN KEEP HER VAGINA HOW SHE KEEP HER HOUSE!
If your woman has a nasty house...run! Real talk!
8: EARLY DISRESPECT OUT THE MOUTH OF YOUR PARTNER IS WARNING TO VERBAL/PHYSICAL ABUSE!
9: HISTORY REPEATS ITSELF!
If your partner has a HISTORY of cheating,abuse,alcoholism,drugs,etc..just remember that!
10: YOU REAP WHAT YOU SEW!
You do dirty in one relationship, don't think the relationship you really want to be in is going to be peaches and cream...
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How to weed out the bad men from the good!
This post is for women who are ready and only looking to settle down with a good man. That being said, WOMEN you have to also be ready and must be the quality that you expect your man to be!! You also have to know yourself and who you are to possibly know what type of man is RIGHT for you! When i was a teenager i had no clue of who i was and what type of women is compatible to my personality. It took years later and a lot of experimenting with different women and personalities including a horrible three year relationship to help me discover myself and the type of women that is compatible with me. With this imperative information, it is that much easier for me to target the good from the bad. Now the bad might not necessarily be bad for all but just not a good match for me. Everyone is different. So to the women who haven't found themselves or don't have a firm grasp on what they want in a man, i suggest you keep living life dating and experimenting to find yourself and what you like need and don't need in a man before you truly start searching for that one!
OK so to the ones that feel they know what they want and they are ready for that one, here is a little advice to help you sift through the dirt to find that gold! BEWARE OF WOLVES IN SHEEP'S CLOTHING! I evaluate my prospects by red flags. If your just starting out with someone and you get a whole lot of red flags at the beginning, then its probably in your best interest to not pursue the relationship! What are red flags you ask? Anything that comes up in a relationship as it pertains to your partner that is con not a pro, a negative, something that makes you question or is not a desirable trait or situation. For instance your guy never answers his phone after a certain time on any day. RED FLAG ! Get it? OK ...so lets proceed. As we all know men and women are usually at there best behavior at the beginning of a relationship. This makes it harder to figure out the true nature of that person or any hidden agenda's. Fellas, I'm sorry to say this but ladies, depending on the guy most of the time guys are "couchie motivated" we see something pleasing to the eye we immediately think "damn i wanna hit that, let me try and get her number! Our main goal is to sleep with you! DISCLAIMER: this does not pertain to all men. It depends on who the man is and where his mind state is at at that point of his life. Some men like me are looking for there wife, but when we find her it will still initially be sexually motivated!! So ladies the biggest thing you have to do is weed out the guys who just want to sleep with you. This can be fairly easy depending on how bad this guy wants to get in your pants!! Men analyze women quickly we will know what role you will play in our life the first time we meet you. For example. Let's say i have extremely good taste in women. My past girlfriends can pass for models. This is my preferred type! And lets say i have a high sex drive and obviously love sex as well. I'm in the gym working out. There is this woman on the tread mill in front of me in nice tight black leggins. Her body is bangin and jiggling everywhere in all the right places. I'm turned on..she finally gets off the tread mill and turns around..BAM she got a "butter face" that means everything fine "but her face" but she's giving me the eye really hard so i know she wants me and this would be an easy lay. As a man I've already came to the conclusion that i want to sleep with her because I'm sexually attracted to her body and plus it would be an easy score because she was starring all at me. I've also came to the conclusion that she's not wifee or girlfriend material because to my standards her face isn't pretty enough, but to another guy he mind think she fine! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. However this beholder doesn't think she hot just her body. My point is now I'm about to approach her and run mad game, what ever i think i have to say or would work just so i can get in her pants! She might really dig me, end up giving me some and getting her feelings hurt in the long run. Ladies I'm trying to prevent you from going through this by determining a man's true agenda before you give your heart and your body away.
OK first things first..WOMEN are attracted by words. This is why they melt when a man writes poetry or says really sweet things to his girl, love notes etc so words are powerful. There are alot of guys out here with alot of game. Don't get caught up with words. Words a man tells you shouldn't hold an ounce of worth unless its backed up by action! If this guy says he cares so much then his actions damn sure better be showing it! If they don't then don't believe it! A guy who just wants to sleep with you won't want to spend money on you! Unless he's a baller and a dinner and a movie ain't nothing which it really isn't but if i know your just a "good time" for me I'm tryna go str8t to your place or have you come back to mine! I'm not tryna spend money, I'm not tryna be really seen with you like that. If your prospect just wants you to come over or vice versa no dinner no movie RED FLAG. If the guy does take you out to dinner and a movie that don't mean he passed its OK to give it to him! Make him wait! That's the simplest yet hardest test to do! A man is NOT going to consistently spend time and money on a girl that he just wants to sleep with. TIME is the secret in telling a mans true intentions. I know it may be hard. I know there are alot of women that's hot under the collar now adays! lol But i promise you i never spent continuous time or money on a girl i only wanted to sleep with...ever! Let that man court you and take you out and spend quality time together without sleeping together for an extended period of time. Is he still the same man he was at the beginning or has his attitude changed. Is he just as attentive as he was at the beginning or does he spend less time with you together or less time talking to you on the phone. Is he going out with others "friends" more? Evaluate that, if he is the same man at the beginning as he is several months later with no actions chances are you have a possible good one on your hands but don't have false security in this because men can and do also change after they do "get it" Sometimes for the better sometimes for the worst. This is just a step in the right direction. There is still alot more to be cautious about. I will go in further detail in another post. Happy hunting for now!
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OK so to the ones that feel they know what they want and they are ready for that one, here is a little advice to help you sift through the dirt to find that gold! BEWARE OF WOLVES IN SHEEP'S CLOTHING! I evaluate my prospects by red flags. If your just starting out with someone and you get a whole lot of red flags at the beginning, then its probably in your best interest to not pursue the relationship! What are red flags you ask? Anything that comes up in a relationship as it pertains to your partner that is con not a pro, a negative, something that makes you question or is not a desirable trait or situation. For instance your guy never answers his phone after a certain time on any day. RED FLAG ! Get it? OK ...so lets proceed. As we all know men and women are usually at there best behavior at the beginning of a relationship. This makes it harder to figure out the true nature of that person or any hidden agenda's. Fellas, I'm sorry to say this but ladies, depending on the guy most of the time guys are "couchie motivated" we see something pleasing to the eye we immediately think "damn i wanna hit that, let me try and get her number! Our main goal is to sleep with you! DISCLAIMER: this does not pertain to all men. It depends on who the man is and where his mind state is at at that point of his life. Some men like me are looking for there wife, but when we find her it will still initially be sexually motivated!! So ladies the biggest thing you have to do is weed out the guys who just want to sleep with you. This can be fairly easy depending on how bad this guy wants to get in your pants!! Men analyze women quickly we will know what role you will play in our life the first time we meet you. For example. Let's say i have extremely good taste in women. My past girlfriends can pass for models. This is my preferred type! And lets say i have a high sex drive and obviously love sex as well. I'm in the gym working out. There is this woman on the tread mill in front of me in nice tight black leggins. Her body is bangin and jiggling everywhere in all the right places. I'm turned on..she finally gets off the tread mill and turns around..BAM she got a "butter face" that means everything fine "but her face" but she's giving me the eye really hard so i know she wants me and this would be an easy lay. As a man I've already came to the conclusion that i want to sleep with her because I'm sexually attracted to her body and plus it would be an easy score because she was starring all at me. I've also came to the conclusion that she's not wifee or girlfriend material because to my standards her face isn't pretty enough, but to another guy he mind think she fine! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. However this beholder doesn't think she hot just her body. My point is now I'm about to approach her and run mad game, what ever i think i have to say or would work just so i can get in her pants! She might really dig me, end up giving me some and getting her feelings hurt in the long run. Ladies I'm trying to prevent you from going through this by determining a man's true agenda before you give your heart and your body away.
OK first things first..WOMEN are attracted by words. This is why they melt when a man writes poetry or says really sweet things to his girl, love notes etc so words are powerful. There are alot of guys out here with alot of game. Don't get caught up with words. Words a man tells you shouldn't hold an ounce of worth unless its backed up by action! If this guy says he cares so much then his actions damn sure better be showing it! If they don't then don't believe it! A guy who just wants to sleep with you won't want to spend money on you! Unless he's a baller and a dinner and a movie ain't nothing which it really isn't but if i know your just a "good time" for me I'm tryna go str8t to your place or have you come back to mine! I'm not tryna spend money, I'm not tryna be really seen with you like that. If your prospect just wants you to come over or vice versa no dinner no movie RED FLAG. If the guy does take you out to dinner and a movie that don't mean he passed its OK to give it to him! Make him wait! That's the simplest yet hardest test to do! A man is NOT going to consistently spend time and money on a girl that he just wants to sleep with. TIME is the secret in telling a mans true intentions. I know it may be hard. I know there are alot of women that's hot under the collar now adays! lol But i promise you i never spent continuous time or money on a girl i only wanted to sleep with...ever! Let that man court you and take you out and spend quality time together without sleeping together for an extended period of time. Is he still the same man he was at the beginning or has his attitude changed. Is he just as attentive as he was at the beginning or does he spend less time with you together or less time talking to you on the phone. Is he going out with others "friends" more? Evaluate that, if he is the same man at the beginning as he is several months later with no actions chances are you have a possible good one on your hands but don't have false security in this because men can and do also change after they do "get it" Sometimes for the better sometimes for the worst. This is just a step in the right direction. There is still alot more to be cautious about. I will go in further detail in another post. Happy hunting for now!
The love Guru
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Sunday, July 24, 2011
This thing called sex!!
It is no question that SEX is one of the most important components of a relationship! It is also one of the main reasons couples divorce. When it comes to attracting the opposite sex, SEX is very important. HOWEVER sex can also be very destructive to a relationship. I promote abstinence until marriage the way God wanted it to be. I do understand that that's not always the case. The flesh is weak and we battle with it everyday. For those that do have pre marital sex just understand the effects and consequences! Great sex to soon in a new relationship can cloud your ability to properly judge and analyse the true chemistry and connection you really have with each other. Great sex does cloud your judgement when its had early on in a new relationship. We tend to overlook flaws or conflicts of interest that normally would be an issue with us because the sex makes up for everything. The problem is no matter how great the sexual chemistry is at the beginning it all dies down. Now I'm not saying that sex is inevitably going to get worse as a relationship progresses. I'm simply saying that the original thrill of great sex with a new partner doesn't stay new for long. You get into that "used to it stage" When the thrill is gone then that's when you start noticing all those annoying flaws that you would have noticed if you weren't playing naked twister all day! Get to know someone for them and not their skills in the bedroom first. You can really get to know a person if you take time to spend quality time. Not just dinner then back to my place. If you find that the chemistry is crazy and your actually compatible just by spending time and hanging out with no sex, the sex later on down the line is just going to enhance an already beautiful start! According to the bible we are supposed to practice abstinence until we are married. Women were designed to attract men as men attract women. And its natural to have sexual desires. The bible says "it is better to marry then to burn with passion" 1 Corinthians 7:9. So sexual desire is supposed to encourage marriage! Every time you sleep with a man/woman, you create a soul tie. A physical,chemical,and spiritual bond between you and your mate.We aren't supposed to BOND with everyone we are attracted to. Only our spouse. The more we do this the harder it is for us to form a genuine meaningful relationship with people. This has been studied. I will elaborate on this subject on a future post.Bottom line is, YES sex is very important but whats more important is knowing you have a real connection with someone your feeling so that when the newness of sex with a new partner dies down, you already have a strong foundation that keeps your relationship going. Without that then your relationship falls apart. Sex only masked the would be obvious flaws, and lack of true connection hence wasting time and energy.Creating a new physical,spiritual, and chemical bond with someone you won't see again. We need to think about the long run when it comes to sex. What is your main goal? Do you just want some booty or are you looking for someone that you can spend the rest of your life with? We need to know what we truly want and should always practice abstinence. Especially if we have no self control over our passion/lust. If its too much to bear then find a wife or a husband! Then you can get it in as much as your hearts desire, and will be smiled down upon by God as sex with your spouse is a form of worship to God. It is a very good thing when its done in the proper circumstances! As always happy hunting!
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Saturday, July 2, 2011
The Cat and Mouse!!!
Ever here a guy/girl say " i want someone that doesn't play games" LIARS!!! LOL OK well that might be taking it over board because alot of people feel they really mean what they say. I don't care whether man or woman, we all love a challenge! Become the prefect man/woman to your mate and i guarantee they will get bored, and start acting up! WHY is this we ask? We all love a challenge. I don't care if you meet your dream girl. Let her come on to you strong and be all over you and available all the time and always blowing you up trying to spend every waking moment with you....yea yea i know what your saying hell naw i wouldn't act up i wouldn't go anywhere. Well it sounds good and is good at first but after a while that woman looses her value real quick. There is no challenge to her. You feel as you conquered her. You feel that she is so into you that you got her on lock then you take her for granted. That's when trouble starts. But you catch yourself soon enough stop being available all the time. Stop blowing up there phone. Don't answer a call or two when they call you. Call back a few hours and say "hey I'm sorry i got a little tied up, how are you" See how quickly roles reverse. This is nothing new. Its the old cat and the mouse game! I don't care who you are, we all play it. Rather we are the cat or the mouse and it goes for both men and women. RULE OF THUMB: never smother your partner! Its almost never good to make your partner feel smothered by you! Except for those few circumstances where people actually love being smothered with attention. (This usually stems from deeper issues with that person) Allow a certain amount of space for each other. This way it gives both you room to breathe and miss each other. Your mate can't call you and say "hey i been thinking about you, i miss you" if your up there butt blown up there phone or texting them 24/7. Good communication is key but know the difference between that and invading comfortable space. The less crowding you are and more mysterious you are , the more intrigued your mate is! To REALLY generalize it....LESS IS MORE!
As always, happy hunting!
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