Foreplay!!

When you think of the word FOREPLAY, sex usually comes to mind. This would be a logical assumption considering most of the time we hear this word it usually is associated with sex.While this may be true there all all different types of foreplay. Most people think of foreplay as the time when your with a woman participating in physical contact. Foreplay is the actions you do to each other before penetration. Yea well ok that is accurate but foreplay can begin way before that. For example. It's been a busy week. You and your wife/husband haven't really had time to "get it in" due to schedules. However you both have friday planned out to be with each other after work. Foreplay can start that friday morning just by conversation about the wonderful evening the two of you are about to have later on. You might request for your wife to wear that one skirt that drives you wild or request your husband wears that tight fitted shirt that shows of his arms really well. There might be a favorite pair of panties or boxers you like to see your partner in. You are now creating visual stimulation on both parts. Both of you are picturing each other in the outfits you requested. This creates anticipation, sexual pressure build up. While you both are at work you might send a picture message showing off random sexy body parts to each other. Or ask your partner to go to the bathroom at work and take a picture in there panties or boxers. More visual stimulation which is important especially with guys. Girls as well. It doesn't have to be a picture at all. It can be a kind word. "I can't wait to get you in my arms later!" Let them know that you are counting down the hours,minutes!I used to date a girl who would get turned on when i did house work!! SERIOUSLY...If i washed the dishes and took out the trash before she got home. It was ON as soon as she came through the door!

OK work is over and your headed to the house to freshen up. This is important. If you haven't already check out my post on "The physical" Gives good advice on hygiene and getting ready to go out. Pretty much make sure your looking good smelling good. So you meet up with your husband/wife where ever you guys planned. A nice long sensual hug is a good idea. Remember foreplay started since the breakfast table. You have pictured what your partner was going to wear all day and now you finally see them in their sexy outfit. Kinda like a good daydream coming true. You know what panties/boxers they are wearing underneath. All this makes that hug much more sensual and romantic. This whole date is about touching and mental stimulation. Touch each other often. Hold hands, put your arms around each other. Sweet kisses on the temple and cheeks. If your at dinner don't sit across from each other. Sit next to each other. More sweet kisses, play footsy under the table. Caress each other under the table. Make a game of it. Try not to get caught by the waiter! This is all anticipation build up. If your at the movies, put your arm around her. Let her rest her head on your shoulders. Ladies rest your hand on his upper inner thigh. Ever so close to his man hood but not quite. Or fellas rest your hands in between her legs. Let her keep them warm. If your adventurous then massage each other without making it obvious to others. Make a game out of that. Make is hard for either one of you to pay attention to the movie. At this point both of you should be thinking WHEN IS THIS MOVIE GOING TO BE OVER! Now this is just an example. The "traditional date" However we all know a date can be anywhere doing anything just improvise. Remember to be romantic,sensual and touchy feely! No arguments tonight! If you got beef about something save it for the next day. Let nothing ruin your good night!

OK so you managed to get through the date without having to go to jail for public sex! lol Your in the car and your on your way home. NOW...i don't think there is anything wrong with a husband and wife having oral sex so if your on that car ride home and you want to indulge then by all means this is great foreplay! Now note: its easier for a girl to give oral to a guy while he drives then for a guy to give it to a girl for obvious reasons. I just recommend that you be safe and use extreme caution. You don't want to be a hazard to other drivers. This is sure to have you kicking the front door down racing to the bedroom as soon as you pull in the driveway. Now if your not that adventurous that's fine. Holding hands and caressing body parts will work as well.

Alright you've made it through the date without exploding with sexual pressure build up. Now its time to reward each other for it! Most of you might already know this. I know there are a lot of sexually experienced people in this world. However i will explain anyway just in case you don't. MEN: We get hot instantly. A quick hug is all we need to get our motors running! Sometimes not even that! My point is we get hot very quickly and are ready to go. However just as fast as we are ready MOST men finish fairly quickly as well. Women: They are the opposite. Now there is always exceptions to the rule but generally it take women longer to get warmed up, and when they are it takes longer for them to cool down unlike men.Fellas please remember this. Now if you followed my advice as far as foreplay on a date and your just getting back home, the woman should be already on her way to being warmed up! The man i already know has been ready since the beginning of the date! lol However fellas lets not assume! The easiest way to tell if a woman is ready to "connect" is to determine if her valley is flowing or not. If her valley is dry then you need to put in more work before you start trying to "get it in" This is very important! A lot of men make the mistake of kissing their wife for a few seconds then undressing them then penetration! Again remember women don't warm up that fast. Even if they want to sleep with you, you have to get them warmed up!

TIP 1: The hotter you get your woman before penetration, the less amount of time and work you have to put in to get her to the "big o"

Guys don't understand that they are causing themselves more problems and work. Let's be honest, women usually last longer then men do. I'm sorry fellas its true. Now of course this doesn't apply to all men (like myself) ;) but it holds true for alot. Now some guys are just selfish. If your a selfish lover then your wife probably is not satisfied sexually. Hence your probably not getting it as much.With sex its all about the woman! You want to make sure that your woman is satisfied. Let's face it fellas we can prob get off from a hole in the wall so as soon as we penetrate we are feeling good and will be satisfied. So lets work towards making the woman finish before we do! So again make sure your woman is hot,ready,and her valley is flowing before you do the horizontal mambo! Now a free flowing valley is enough to give you the green light however if you really want to drive your woman crazy hold out on penetration until she begs for it! Continue kissing,fondling,grinding what ever your doing until she

A: is constantly reaching for it trying to navigate it in herself or

B: is literally begging for it! (baby please just give it to me)

I promise you if you take your time and go above and beyond with the foreplay to the point she's reaching for it and begging for it, I guarantee by time you do give her what she's reaching for, she will already be half way at the "big o" as soon as you start. Again this means less work and time you have to put in before she reaches climax. This is extremely helpful for many reasons. Including for those who don't have the best stamina or have problems with pre ejaculation! Now for the ladies, again women it doesn't take much to get us going. That being said us men do have hot spots as well. So many times women neglect to make effort to find out and utilize a man's hot spots. Just as you women have those certain spots that when kissed,licked,rubbed,blown on etc drive you nuts, we do too!!! Take the time to find out ours and watch your man go wild! Men are visual creatures. Lingerie or just sexy panties and bras do alot for a man. Please keep that in mind. I always say a woman can never own to many pair of panties and bras! It's less attractive if your husband keeps seeing you in the same few pair of lint ball filled panties! Switch it up! If you and your spouse have a long night or day in bed ahead of you, ladies change it up. After round one, go to the bathroom and freshen up a bit. Come out with a whole new pair of panties and bra. It is almost as the man is sleeping with a fresh new woman and is def a turn on!

ORAL SEX

Oral sex is great for foreplay but to do it right you have to know your partner. Now I'm not going to give you a step by step guide on how to perform this act. Maybe in a later post but I'm simply talking about orgasm. Is your partner multi orgasmic or is it one shot and i need a nap? This goes for men and women as men can be multi orgasmic as well.(like myself) The reason this is important is simple. If your wife is the type that when she has the "big o" shes ready to quit and take a nap then as far as foreplay is concerned, its ok to give her oral but don't let her peak! If she does then she's ready for a break before you even penetrate. Same goes with guys. Now if your partner is multi orgasmic then its ok to let them get one in, but when they do climax, make sure you get them on the brink of the second orgasm before you penetrate for the first time.Ladies i don't recommend you letting your husband climax before he penetrates. Even if he's multi orgasmic. You want him at his best!

Tip 2: If you perform oral on your spouse, get them on the brink of climax then stop the sensation so it dies down some then bring them to the brink again and let it die down again, if you repeat this 2 to 3 times, by time you do let them climax, the orgasm will be much stronger and intense then it would be if you just let them climax as soon as they feel the need.

To sum it up...i do believe in quickies. Certain situations and time restraints call for just that. However if you have time to make love to your spouse, its best to do it the right way and to def incorporate foreplay. This makes for a more enjoyable experience with your spouse. Which will bring new memories and you closer to your spouse as you worship God in the very act he created for husband and wife to bond with each other chemically and spiritually as well as to beautify the earth!

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