1 Corinthians 7:9 "But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion" What does this passage mean in the bible? There is a saying that i made up a long time ago so if you quote it then you better give me credit! lol Ok goes like this "Women are God's greatest creation and the devil's greatest temptation" The bible teaches us that there isn't anything new under the sun that hasn't been done before. Everything that we are going through today including relationships, people have went through in the past. Since for ever there have been marriage,betrayal,adultery, fornication, brother against brother etc... Men back in b.c and a.d have struggled with the temptation of a woman same as the modern man does now. Vice versa. Great men of our yester years had dozens of wives and hundreds of concubine's. We thought we knew how to live it up!! My point is we have been struggling with lustful desires since we were created. The KEY WORD is self control!! Some of us have it some of us don't. Some of us have more then others do. If your one of those people that have a high sex drive and very little control then that passage in the bible was for you as well as it was for me!!!
The passage is saying if your one of those who can't control your lust then instead of going out there having random casual sex, its best that you find a husband or wife. That way you can fulfill your passion and it will be smiled down upon by God. Did you know that when a husband and wife make love its a form of worship to God? God created sex! It has been perverted by principalities of evil. It was never meant to be be nasty or perverted, but a beautiful act of worship to God and to beautify the earth with children! SO.....God and relationships!!!!
Here is the thing. The world we live in is a wicked place. Filled with principalities of evil and wicked men! The world is lucifer's! It says so in the bible. So generally speaking if you fit right in with the world you fit right in with the devil. Having a relationship with someone who fits perfectly into the world can lead to problems. The bible says you can not be un equally yoked. Meaning you can't be this saved God fearing man or woman and your spouse is a heathen!! There will be conflict and it will be hard for God to bless that union. Now you can pray that your spouse gets turned around and follow God and sometimes they do! However going into a new relationship knowing someone isn't into God like you are or someone who doesn't even believe is not wise!
The thing about keeping God first in our lives and relationships, is we have some kind of accountability. We have moral standards. Rules so to speak to go by. A guide in how to live your life and conduct yourself in the world. Following this guide and believing in what it contains, makes us Christians. What does it contain? well hopefully some of you already know and have read the bible. If not, no chance like the present to read the word. In a nut shell, live a good life. Be good be kind be loyal. Live right, always try to do the right thing, love thy neighbor! Wow what horrible things right....lol It's basically telling you to be a good person! So if you find someone who reads the GUIDE and TRIES very hard to follow it then that means they are practicing being a good person! They are prone to have more morals and values and someone to hold them accountable for their actions. They are someone who knows and understands consequence.
NOW......
Let's take worldly people. How do they measure up in relationships? Now when i say worldly people i mean people who are saturated in the world. Not just non believers but believers who know God but are just not living by his word. Who are not reading the GUIDE. These people, and yes for a long time I WAS one of thees people, have no accountability. What guide do they have to live by? None I mean sure they know right and wrong as it pertains to the laws on this world. But they do not know morally, or choose not to apply what they do know to be the right moral thing to do as it pertains to God. They are less likely to care if they cheat and sleep around, or if they lie to you and play you with multiple partners. They have no conviction for their sins! Marriage is not sacred or holy to them. If they do marry, their marriage is not blessed because the foundation is not God. Spouses are more likely to cheat, or not take in the seriousness of marriage.
So i ask YOU.... if your in that place where your ready to settle down. Ready for a serious committed relationship leading to marriage in the future, which partner would you feel more comfortable putting your heart on the line for? The God fearing partner who tries their best to live by the Guide and follow the rules which encouraged kindness loyalty and love, or the partner who doesn't hold themselves to those rules and has no convictions for their wrong doings? I'll take partner A for a thousand please!!! I'm just saying if your trying to settle with a real good guy or girl your chances of finding one are better if they have God in there live and are actively trying to live by his word as opposed to anything else!
CONTRADICTION TIME:
This being said however.....just because a person says they are saved or go to church doesn't mean they are, or that they are living right and will treat you properly. I know a guy who studies the bible and preys on women using the friendship good christian brother approach. You know the type that acts like he just wants to be your friend. He poses as a God fearing good christian man. Quotes scriptures out the bible and gives good advice.... Sound familiar. They get you to let your guards down get close then try to catch you at a vulnerable state and try to get in your pants! Ive seen this in women also!! Or the men and women who are at the club getting drunk and having sex with a new buddy after the club, then barely rolling out of bed sunday morning to get ready for their solo performance in the church choir! Or people like me, I was one of the ones that used to preach to a girl about getting closer to God and truly be sincere about it, yet at the end of the conversation I'm trying to pull her panties down! Yea i know right...The bible says... Matthew 7:15“Beware of the false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly are ravenous wolves. 16“You will know them by their fruits. Grapes are not gathered from thorn bushes nor figs from thistles, are they? 17“So every good tree bears good fruit, but the bad tree bears bad fruit".... So if they say they are christians that's fine but listen to their actions, watch the fruit that they bear. If they are good christians they will show it by their actions and the way they live their everyday life. So I'm speaking on taking chances with a partner who is a christian and bears good fruit!! This betters your odds of having a wonderful loving, and understanding relationship with your spouse!
As always, happy hunting
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Yeah, well I've been praying and searching for years. And the truth is I find more Godly character in many of the non-Christians I date than I find in the "Christian" guys that go to church, pray with me, and read the Bible. The problem is non-christians don't want to raise kids going to church so when we end up getting to the place of talking kids and futures it doesn't work, but they love me more, they love me harder, they treat me with more respect than any "Christian" man i've ever dated. So what do you do then? I feel destined to remain single.
ReplyDeleteHello jennysweetheart29, thank you for taking the time to read and comment on my blog. What do you do? Keep praying and beliving in God to deliver. I see your delima. As i mentioned in the blog, just because you say your a christian doesn't mean you are. At the same time, just because you are a christian doesn't mean your perfect or the right one! You need to find "the fruit bearer" The one who doesn't even have to say their a christian but you can just tell by their demeanor and their actions. The way they treat others and live their lives. If your a God fearing woman, it is not an option to marry a non believer. God said you can not be un equally yoked. How are you going to expect God to bless a union between two people when half of that union doesn't believe he even exisit or follow another form of false doctorine? Concentrate on meeting and dating only "fruit bearers" then out of those find the one where the chemistry is great and he treats you like you feel you deserve to be treated. How do you date only "fruit bearers"? You have to learn to become top fbi agent 0071! Reading people, and character analisis is a skill. Learn it! You'll save precious valuable time weeding out the good from the wolves in sheeps clothing early on. And don't forget to keep praying!! If you ask and believe, God can reveal a persons true colors and intentions to you!
ReplyDeleteJust to add my two cents - I think i can help a lot of guys with this: The most important tip anyone could ever give you in regard to meeting Ladies: This is seriously your foundation and you will need to stay focused. Females are mostly attracted by self confidence and in turn - they are completely turned off by the lack of it. Your facial expression will get you started or shut you down instantly. If your expression is one of sadness or blank, negative or anything besides what I'm about to share then you've lost before you even entered the room. Girls will smell the failure or success in a guy long before they are even approached. And, this is important to remember, you don't have to be financially successful to beat out the guys who are. Money gives a guy an edge when used correctly but it's the not the money that gets the babes unless it's a hooker or gold digger. Don't get me wrong about this - having some money is very important if a relationship is what you want because women/girls are looking for security when it comes to relationships.
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Here is what you have to do - some homework. Practice what I'm about to share as much as possible until you get your best at this. Your facial expression needs to be self confident and a little happy. You don't even have to be smiling but i do recommend a slight smile or a slightly happy face. Depending on your mood and type of day you are having - this may not be apparent unless you are consciously making it happen.
If you are not a very self confident person and most people are not then think of something you are good at - anything at all. If you're real good at throwing horse shoes (or whatever else you can think of - anything) - use it to create that confident look on your face. Stand in front of a mirror and think about what ever it is that you are good at or something that you enjoy very much and practice that confident and slightly happy look. What I am explaining will help you at work too - it will help with most things you do that involve others - for example, if you hate your boss - you better start practicing this immediately or you might lose your job because your boss will see the hate in your eyes and in your body language. Your face projects how you feel about yourself and how you feel about yourself is how others are going to feel about you! When you think you have it mastered, practice it while looking into someone's eyes and keep doing this until you can look into a girl's eyes and maintain that look. Think about it -
Projecting confidence is crucial and it's the single most important thing you can do.
So practice "the face" and before you walk through a door - have that face on before you enter the room.
There's a fine line between a confident face and an arrogant face - so you don't want to over do it either. Having said that - you are better off looking slightly arrogant than looking like a loser or a failure.
Now project confidence -
This is your single the biggest ticket to get in.
Remember, if you are not a confident person use the trick of thinking about something you are good at, it can be anything........
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