The proto-type

There are all different types of people in this world. It is our job to experience as many people and personalities as we can. Depending on what stage of life we are in we might not even know who we are. The longest relationship i was in to date was 3 yrs. I've only been in true love once! I cheated! Yes i know i know but i was young and dumb! I was heart broken for two yrs until i met the woman i mentioned previously. Physically she was gorgeous! Everything i could ever hope for in a woman. At that time i was just getting to know who i am, and i never really knew what my proto-type of a woman was. The problem was that me and this woman were identical. We where both attractive, cocky, full of ourselves. We both were used to alot of attention from the opposite sex. Both stubborn bull headed, had to have our way! Yes this was a nightmare. From the first phone conversation we had, we argued! And everyday of our lives for three years straight we argued and fought. Absolutely the worst relationship i ever had! That being said i wouldn't change a thing about that period in my life. It taught me so much about who i am and what type of woman i need for me to be happy! It was a bitter sweet learning experience! We all need to find out who we are and what we need as opposed to what we want!

This brings us to our proto-type! Once you have a pretty good grasp on who you are and the type of women that's right for you, STICK TO THE SCRIPT! Don't waste time dating someone who you know you have no future with. For example if your looking to get married and the man/woman your talking to says that marriage is the furthest thing from there mind, then its probably a waste of time dating her. If you want kids and the person your dating doesn't, move around! Don't waste time entertaining that relationship just because he/she is attractive and you want to get some! Anything can happen. You sleep with him/her you get her pregnant or you become pregnant with someone that your not compatible with. Now you have a baby momma/daddy and a misc kid out there. PLEASE learn from my mistakes. Don't wast your time. Only focus on your PROTO-TYPE! Only date those who make your check list! Example physical attraction..check wonderful personality..check   no kids...check   good job, own place check and check. Christian God fearing check. Wants to eventually get married check! Now this is just an example. Your list can be what ever it is you want. The point is don't waste time with those who don't meet the criteria. If you only date your PROTO-TYPES  your chances are far greater finding what you really need in a mate and detour's you from other distractions that may keep you from God's blessings! Happy hunting!

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The emotional

Women are emotional creatures. I don't think anyone would dare disagree with that! This being so, to be successful in the hunt you have to play on there emotions.Women love to be made to feel good about themselves from a man so complimenting is very important! SO...you see the apple of your eye across the room, you got them pheromones pumping and your swag is fly because of your proper hygiene and sharp attire. Your ready to make your move. What do you do? What do you say? At this point no time to take risk, have an opening line prepared. Now I'm not saying those cheezy come ons! That's sure to get you rejected fast! The best lines are the ones that don't sound like one! The ones that flow and seem natural.For instance " excuse me, i don't mean to interrupt you but i noticed you, and wanted to introduce myself. My name is x what's yours? Simple, doesn't sound like a cheezy come on. Honest direct to the point. Your asking her a question that demands response, interaction. Don't go for the kill (asking for the number) right away. Conversation is great! Words move a woman just as deep if not deeper as physical appearance. Keep the convo going. MAKE HER LAUGH! My momz used to say " you can laugh a girls panties right off her" lol. I'm not suggesting you do this for this purpose however! If you can keep that woman laughing, the battle is half won! So she's laughing she's talking back to you. She doesn't have that "please just go away look on her face" Its time to do one of two things. If sparks are really flying and you can def tell she's into you, DON'T LEAVE! Buy her a drink, buy yourself another and spend the rest of the night with her until she's ready for you to go! Dates that go that way make couples and babies really fast! The key is to be confident, like you do this all the time. Kool, show your interested but not desperate. Never make it seem like she's out of your league. Now its time to get the digits! Don't ask for the number demand it. Put it in the way were she feels she has no choice. Something like this " Look i could talk to you for hours but i don't want to keep you (pull out your phone) what's your number so i can text you some time. Your easy to talk too!" It's harder to say no if you do it this way, but that doesn't mean they won't! If they say ...no give me yours don't go out without a fight. Something like " come on now we need to do this the right way. How about we both exchange numbers, that way the option is in both of our hands to communicate! I believe in taking control of my destiny!" Watch em melt! If they don't...ahh for get it, on to the next one. You tried! That's one thing you have to remember. Never take it personal. Its a numbers game. The more women you talk too, the better chances of getting yes's! Your shy and barely approach a woman, then when you do, she turns you down and you wait even longer for the next one. You'll never get anyone like that. Move on the next one that catches your eye like that. Not just any and everything! I assure you if you follow all these steps your sure to line up an impressive roster. I promote marriage and monogamy. I also feel that you have to date multiple people at the same time to get to know what you like and don't like. Who do you have more chemistry with. Who are you more compatible with? Follow these three key points and you are well on your way to finding your spouse! As always, happy hunting!

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The physical!!

There were numerous studies done to determine how long it takes for us humans to determine if we find someone attractive or not after seeing them for the first time. The answer they came up with is 3 SECONDS! Yep, that's it! A three second glance will give are conquest all they need to determine if they find us physically attractive. What does that mean to us? WE GOTTA GET IT RIGHT THE FIRST TIME! So...lets start with hygiene. This is SO IMPORTANT. If your going out "fishing" make sure you have the proper bait. Start with A SHOWER! Some may think its common sense, but you will be surprised at how many people get this wrong. Just because you shower in the morning doesn't mean you can party in the club that same night with out freshening up! Make sure you take a FRESH shower before you go fishing for that mate. A good clean scented deodorant, and yes of course a nice fresh cologne. I never met a woman that didn't like a good smelling man! THIS IS KEY! Although some women are allergic to cologne. This we cannot perceive ahead of time so are hands are tied with these women at first. Major rule of thumb with cologne...LESS IS MORE! Don't drown yourself in it where everyone can smell you coming a mile away!

Next...women love a CLEAN SHAVING MAN! Please keep your nails clean and manageable, your hair cut, and shaved. No matter the hairstyle. If your rockin braids make sure they are done on the regular. Its not hot approaching a girl and you got the fuzzies! If your rockin a fro, natural keep it shaped and trimmed. Keep a fresh lining. If your of caucasian persuasion, same applies. Keep it cut trimmed. If mousse is your thing then mousse it out, spike it, what ever the fashion is own it! A clean shaved face is always hot. If your going for the 5 o clock rough around the edges look that's fine, but keep your scruffy beard even. keep it lined up so its not crawling down your neck.

Also CLOTHING! Ever hear the term "funky fresh dressed to impress ready to party"? Women LOVE a well dressed man. You can be fat with crazy swag based off your dress and proper hygiene. If your not fashionable consult a woman. Most male clothing stores i know have women sales persons, for good reason too! Ask them for help. They will keep you from embarrassment! This includes nice shoes! Women always look down at a mans feet. You would be surprised at how many women say they judge a guy solely by the shoes he has on. Are your shoes clean, old, busted? This is also very important!!

Finally ACCESSORIZE! Women love shiny things. A nice watch and a ring has never been to much. For the more fashionistic throw in a bracelet and a chain but don't over do it. Nothing to gaudy or flashy. Nothing to big unless your a pimp on the west side of chicago trying to recruit new horses for your track! Or your looking to attract gold diggers and video vixens! Again rule of thumb..LESS IS MORE! If you can adhere to these simple tips, this should get you more looks and further on your way in the right direction.

Stay tuned for my next post dealing with attracting the opposite sex using the emotional!! As always happy hunting!

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